An era like never before. C’mon don’t be shy.
Some people will be open to the idea immediately whereas others might at first appear shocked or shy on the matter, we soon see those same people becoming increasingly curious.
There will also be those who are completely uninterested or believe that this isn’t a topic of conversation that they wish to learn more about, that is fine. One day though curiosity might come knocking, especially if certain needs are not being met.
Toys for everyone.
Whichever category you fall into a little education on the matter can’t hurt. Also important to remember or know, there was a time where people wished they could find out more or have open conversations about sexual gratification. In a similar way to gay people or those of different gender groups.
If you have a family member that is around 40 years old and is either gay or identifies as a different gender, a short conversation with them about how things have changed for them. If they were aware in their late teens then what they had to endure really will stop you in your tracks.
There is some history behind your new toy.
The most prominent records of a sex toy date back to the Victorian era. It was documented that an increasing number of women were coming forward in need of help surrounding their inability to obtain orgasms or sexual relief.
Soon after saw the invention of the first ‘official’ sex aid. An absolute revelation at the time and perhaps something that is overlooked today due to the much-improved accessibility. From a time where the subject wasn’t discussed to a time whereby with just a couple of clicks you can have your desired device on your doorstep within 24hrs is a thing of amazement.
If you are one of the few that has already explored themselves and their partner’s needs then you might be interested to visit the online ‘Secrets Shop’ one of the market leaders in adult entertainment.
It’s all in the mind dear.
As we know, everybody is unique and as such so are the different driving forces behind each person’s process of reaching ultimate pleasure. What some of us don’t know though is that ultimately our ability to reach that peak all comes down to psychology.
For that reason and understanding that the toys are just one part of the jigsaw puzzle, we are going to focus more on the reasons why we might want to explore what is on offer.
Adult toys have grown in popularity over the last decade, mainly due to the Internet and people becoming more open-minded.
Physical pleasure increases sexual pleasure without a doubt. But, how does the use of sex toys affect the overall satisfaction that both partners get from their relationship?
Numerous studies done with a wide variety of individuals highlight that fully understanding your partner on an intimate level, not just a quick fumble, wham bam thank you, ma’am, but really understanding what makes them tick in the bedroom department brings with it a whole new level of companionship.
For most of us, sexual desire is usually short-lived with a deeper meaning of basic instincts. Behind it are a need to reproduce and a want for companionship. There are few people who truly want to be alone for the rest of their lives despite what they might say.
What are we really looking for?
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“Using a sex toy means your partner isn’t good enough” is one of the most common misunderstandings about sex toys people have. One partner may also be worried that using a sex toy would replace them or make their other half overly dependent on them for excitement and/or orgasm.
This just goes to show how much of a personal matter it is and how on one hand there are many benefits yet on the other there could be some issues that arise.
Communication is key.
With this in mind, it is vital that communication is good and that you are both on the same page. If buying to use with a partner, perhaps shop together so that you both know what is in store. Quite literally. Be clear and respect each other’s boundaries.
According to several articles, men who regularly use vibrators (on their own, with partners or both) are more sensitive than men who rarely, or never even touched a vibrator in terms of erectile function, orgasmic function, sexual desire and sexual satisfaction.
Would you be shocked if told that men who identify as bisexual or gay tend to be more likely to use a sex toy or vibrator?
The men are on top!
Initially it looked like this topic was going to sway towards the female readers, what a surprise and turn of events that is. Just goes to show how times have changed over the last decade alone.
With such a diverse world around us, you may find this gender equality report on the gov.uk website an interesting bedtime read.
So, now we know that no-one has a gender excuse when it comes to sex toys. Let’s talk a little of what’s on offer. As mentioned, sexual pleasure is very personal and as a result, the choices you get are almost endless. Some you will get straight away, others may need some further instruction or experimentation.
Just the tip of the iceberg.
Little did we know that ‘vibrators’ are just the tip of the iceberg. A quick internet search nearly crashed the computer! There are assortments of seductive clothing, toys of all shapes and sizes for him and for her, various rings which perform different tasks.
We were even met face to face with bondage gear of all types. All this from a quick and quite innocent search. Heaven only knows what you might find if you were actively looking.
We were pleasantly surprised to discover that prices and service appear to be very competitive. We saw a few different sales incentives ranging from money-off vouchers, free delivery on orders over £30 and sales items nearly everywhere we looked.
All in all, now is a superb time to explore and if curiosity gets the better of you, well there are far worse things that you could order!